Goodbye Grandma

On Thursday, April 29, 2010, my grandma died at the age of 86. She lived a long and full life and had been sick the last few years so while there was some acceptance ahead of time, it still sucks to lose my last grandparent. She was a stubborn and determined person, but loved her family and would do what she could do for them given her limited means.

I’ll admit to not being the best grandchild (she had 18) the last few years. She lived in Des Moines, IA, I live in the Twin Cities, MN and while it’s only 4 hours away, I didn’t make any trips down to see her. I saw her once a year during the family Christmas, but that was probably it. I honestly don’t think I even saw her during 2009 (Christmas was cancelled due to weather and work issues), and I feel bad about that now. She made the trip up for Jon’s funeral and it look like it affected her. It meant a lot to me that she came up (and I thank those in the family that helped her get there) as I know it was not easy for her to travel.

I’ll also admit that I’m not very close with my relatives in Des Moines. This has changed a little bit thanks to Facebook. My cousins are very active there and it’s helped us at least keep up to date a bit even if we don’t always know details. In fact, it was through Facebook that I first learned of my grandma’s passing (about 30 minutes before my mom called to tell me). Such is life in these connected times. I’m not sure how much we’ll be connected now, my grandma seemed to be the reason that people got together, at least those of us outside of Des Moines, but we’ll see.

It was really hard to be at the funeral. I tried to hold it together and I did well. It was a different emotion than before, but it was there. It was hard to see all the other kids there. It was hard to hear Jonathan’s name mentioned. It was hard to lose another loved one so quickly.

What hurt even more was reading the folder at the funeral and seeing: “preceded in death by great-grandson Jonathan Halverson.” They read that aloud during the funeral and I about lost it. (I haven’t written the start of that yet, and that’s what prompted me to restart this blog, but it’s coming…)

To add insult to injury, as my wife and I went out to load up the van to leave we saw we had a flat tire. Unreal. Thankfully my parents were there and we rode with them to the funeral and such and then had some help from the hotel to get to a repair shop who was able to patch the tire within about 30 minutes and $20 later we were on the road. My hatred for cars grew that day again, but that’s a topic for another post 🙂

I do know that my grandma is now at peace, healthy and in good spirits and keeping an eye on Jon. Rest in peace grandma, you earned it.

2 Responses to “Goodbye Grandma”

  1. Brandi Hart Says:

    This is great insight to you, and your right over the years we have all lost touch. We shouldn’t do that again, Katie open house graduation is may 15, you guys should come, and I know Des moines, isn’t as excited at MN but we’d love to have you guys. No matter what we will still be family, an we love you guys, P.S I’d love to read your do I join to see it everytime.

  2. Shane Voigt Says:

    Grandma would be happy with this!! You were right when you said she loved all of US, no matter what we did or how often we visited. We can just take comfort in knowing she is watching over all of us and taking care of Jon. Love Shane

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